Daily Dose of Mama: Vindicated, But Not Happy About It

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Vindicated, But Not Happy About It

Let's be clear. I don't like it when my child or my husband is distressed.

But I also don't like it when my husband thinks I might be over-exaggerating the extent of Little Bug and my struggles with "night night" time last week.

When Little Bug freaked out as Appa tried to rock him last night (usually a very special and calm time for us), there was a small part of me that was satisfied that he would see what I was talking about.

One hour later, I took pity on them both and tagged in.

Two hours later, Appa had to tag back in.

Three hours later, I tagged back in. By this point, any satisfaction I had felt was replaced with a draining fatigue and frustration. It's not like Little Bug was having a great time, either. He would sleep on us, but would immediately wake up in hysterics if we attempted to move him to his crib.

I'm not really sure how I did it, but about 3.5 hours after his normal bedtime, Little Bug was slumbering peacefully in his crib.

I was vindicated, but instead of satisfaction, I just felt bad for us all. Hopefully this phase passes soon, just like they all do.

3 comments:

ChristineMarch 16, 2010 at 3:10 PM
Rough nights are not fun. Joel has had similar troubles going to sleep lately. Not 3.5 hours, but an hour of him crying, us going in, him crying etc. Travis seems to think it's the time change but I'm not so sure! Anyway I hope Little Bug goes to sleep easily tonight!
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AnonymousMarch 16, 2010 at 6:03 PM
I do hope this phase passes soon for you... although there is always a new, "fun" phase waiting just around the corner. ;)
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CindyMarch 17, 2010 at 8:43 AM
Yuck! Sorry to hear this. Not sleeping well is not my favorite phase. Hopefully it'll end soon and your sweet sleeping boy will return.
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