Daily Dose of Mama: For Every Few Jacobs, There is a Sasha

Friday, October 8, 2010

For Every Few Jacobs, There is a Sasha

The chanting of "No, Little Buggie, No" in the morning hasn't stopped completely. Some days the three boys just ignore Little Bug by enthusiastically welcoming every child except Little Bug. Little Bug's excellent teacher has total control of the situation, but it still makes my heart very sad to know and see that Little Bug is being actively shunned. There is nothing more as a mother that I can do.

It's up to the "Sashas" of the world, now.

Little Bug's special friend aged into the 3-year-old room a couple months ago. Although they rarely see each other now, Little Bug still talks about Sasha and keeps a special place in his heart for his first best friend. Yesterday as Little Bug and I were walking past the 3-year-old class, Andrew, a little boy who never showed preference toward Little Bug one way or the other but always followed Sasha's lead, spotted Little Bug walking by. Andrew, completely unprovoked, ran to the window and started banging on it, screaming "Hi, Little Bug; hi, Little Bug!"

My son got a big smile on his face and got right up against the window. The two of them stood like that, pointing and waving and yelling hi, for about 2 minutes. I finally dragged Little Bug away and out to the car, only to see Andrew pounding on the outside window to continue to say good bye to my boy.

The smile on my son's face was mega watt; I am sure mine matched.

The chanting Jacobs of the world are always going to be there. They are probably going to be, in some form, the norm rather than the exception. But, for every few chanting Jacobs there will be a Sasha or Andrew.

And the Sashas and Andrews of the world are worth a million of the chanting Jacobs.

9 comments:

sueOctober 8, 2010 at 8:42 AM
i got a little teary reading this post. sasha's and andrew's are the best. i'm so glad little bug has them. i hope he moves into their class soon!
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everythingismeowsomeOctober 8, 2010 at 10:40 AM
My fervent prayer as I watch children day to day is that the Sasha's and the Andrew's grow up to be popular and influential....using their "power" for good.
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kellyOctober 8, 2010 at 10:52 AM
I'm crying in my coffee ... happy tears. My hope is that our kids get to interact with lots of Sasha's and Andrew's in their lifetime, or even better that they BECOME a Sasha or an Andrew.
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JoJoOctober 8, 2010 at 2:44 PM
Yay for Andrew!! I can just see the scene and it makes me melt.
Amen to what Kelly said :)
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IP JourneyOctober 8, 2010 at 10:15 PM
i am so happy for the sashas and andrews...echoing kelly and joanna!
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Annie BOctober 8, 2010 at 11:29 PM
It still amazes me how early this stuff sets in...and how slow some are to grow out of it. So glad to hear Bug has an ally. It can mean the world.
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AnonymousOctober 10, 2010 at 9:38 PM
I *heart* Sasha and Andrew! I also love what Kelly said!
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KristenOctober 11, 2010 at 11:26 PM
I'm so glad after having to see Little Bug shunned by the boys in his class you were able to see this.
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Christine @ 12,450miles October 12, 2010 at 10:29 AM
I have a big lump in my throat right now...
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