A Short Note

I am not a woman of few words, but I encounter a lot who are...especially adoption social workers. I assume this is due to lessons they've learned that when it comes to the words you say to desperate parents who hang onto your every letter, you are more careful with your words. And indeed, as a parent who is desperate and does hang on every word, this brief way of communication privately annoys disappoints me.

Yesterday I sent our new social worker a short (read: two paragraphs) e-mail with an update on our nonupdate. I didn't ask any questions and didn't even really expect a response back. I basically just wanted her to know that we hadn't forgotten about Little Bro and that we were still trying whatever we could to make the process speed up (which, by the way, is not an option).

To my surprise, I got a swift, one line response:
He is your little guy—just waiting for you to get through all of these hurdles…

This might seem insignificant, but it was exactly what I needed to hear at this point. Not a bunch of whens and at that points and as soon as, but just a short note validating that even though all the major players might not formally think so yet, where it counts, Little Bro is our little guy.

And really, what else needs to be said?