Daily Dose of Mama: Today

Sunday, November 22, 2009

Today

Today a mother is celebrating her son's 2nd birthday.

She might be celebrating it by having a special meal, or writing a special letter, or singing a special song. She might be commemorating his 2nd birthday with whispered well wishes or shedding private bittersweet tears. I don't know how she is celebrating it, but I know without a doubt that she is in whatever way she can.

Today I am celebrating my son's 2nd birthday.

I'm celebrating his birthday by having a special meal, writing a special letter, and singing a special song. I'm commemorating his 2nd birthday by whispering heartfelt hopes and well wishes into his ear as he naps, and I woke up this morning and cried bittersweet tears into my pillow.

Today we are celebrating our son's 2nd birthday. The day that he came into the world and changed both our lives forever. We might never meet, but on this day, more than any other day, we are so much more than a "birth mother" and an "adoptive mother."

Today we are both just his mother. Two women who would sacrifice everything for his happiness and who are both sending the same thought to each other..."thank you for loving him."

Her and I.

3 comments:

sueNovember 22, 2009 at 2:57 PM
C, this is beautiful. i am in tears. . .
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kellyNovember 22, 2009 at 4:09 PM
Me too, streaming down my face. So nice.
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AnonymousNovember 22, 2009 at 4:19 PM
What a beautiful and moving post. You have such a way with words...
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Everyday Mama

I'm a 32-year-old everyday mama. My husband (Appa) and I adopted our first son Little Bug (at 10 months old) from Korea in September 2008. We adopted our second son, Little Bro, from Korea in April 2011 at age 21 months. We adopted our third son,Little Moon, at age 3 in November 2013. I've wanted to be a mama for a long time, but I'm still trying to figure out the reality of it all and take time to enjoy the delicate beauty of the highs and the lows.

I worked full time as an editor, which I loved; but I made the bittersweet decision to stay home with my children after Little Bro came home. I'm now clumsily finding my footing in a new world of housekeeping, menu planning, budgeting, cooking, cleaning, and rainy-day activities, as well as navigating the world of IEPs, parent advocacy, and special needs education (spoiler: I suck at house work). My husband is hot and smart and quiet and loyal, and I think (know) my sons are the cutest, happiest little boys in the world.

I also struggle at times with mild depression, anxiety, post-adoption depression, my husband's constant absence due to his stressful and super time-consuming job, the challenges of helping my older son with his sometimes exhausting special needs, and our transition to a family of three little boys with just 19 and 14 months between them. I worry way too much about what people think of me, hate talking on the phone, and I am trying to trust myself more.

Oh yeah, I'm unable to give birth to children; love books, writing, traveling, and the color brown; hate to clean, cook, craft, or do laundry; allergic to pretty much everything but food (thank God); and think camping in anything but a tent is lame.

I needed somewhere to drop my daily mama thoughts and musings on toddler poop to avoid massive clutter and ramblings on our private family blog. Writing it down on paper is so '90s.

This is my everyday "blournal" as I navigate through my life as a first-time (or is it third-time now?) mama and long-time me. So....hi.

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