I . like . cosleeping .
I spend 3 nights a week without my husband, and the honest truth is my perfect little hot pretzel stick son is a fantastic spooner. Most of the time, I really enjoy having him share my bed with me. I absolutely cherish the time I get in the morning when he is still nuzzled up to me while I watch him sleep.
However, I've determined that, for our family and my son, it's not the healthiest choice, physically or emotionally. So, starting next Monday, after our last vacation for a while is finally complete, I'm going to be retraining all three of us away from cosleeping.
Appa is not happy about it, I'm a little bummed about it, and I can guarantee Little Bug won't be on board. But it is the right thing to do for us, and what is right isn't always what is easy.
I've started looking into sleep training books and methods and there are so many to choose from. I'm considering just blindly picking one and going with it. Seriously, I assume they all are just different methods to the same end, right?
I hate the fact that Little Bug is going to be sad and put up a good fight. I hate the fact that I'm going to be the enforcer because Appa is such a push over when it comes to this. I hate the fact that I'm going to need a lot more DDP to make it through the day. I hate the fact my little boy won't be spooning me for much longer and mumbling "choo choo" in my ear.
But I love the fact that my family is growing and changing and that this is in preparation for one son to grow up a little so our next son can assume his position as our baby.
hmmmm... so sad for you. Like you, we are the "halfway through the night little feet come padding over" closet co-sleepers. What a great, sad, scary, and ultimately good step for your family. Let's see, little bug is almost three... that means I have a few more months before I have to buckle down, right? :)
ReplyDeleteOh, I feel for you. Sleep training is so hard, but well worth the results. (We went with the sleep*sense program, which is a "modified" cry it out program, but there are several good ones out there. Healthy Sleep, Happy Child - or something like that - is good too.) GOOD LUCK!
ReplyDeleteOh boy...good luck! I'm not sure who it's gonna be hardest for.
ReplyDeleteWe did Healthy Sleep, Happy Child by Weisbluth. But I'm not sure it gives the best tips for an almost 3 year old. You many want to look for one geared towards an older child.
Oh man, I dream of/dread the day our therapist says Andy is ready for this step (luckily Aidan never wants in our bed).
ReplyDeleteI've heard wonderful things about The No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers & Preschoolers.
Your first paragraph cracks me up! But the rest is a little sad. Poor guy. You'll have to give him extra snuggles during the day. And please do pass along any advice you get on transitioning away, because we're gonna have to do that soon too. I am also dreading it.
ReplyDeletei'm thankful that C adjusted so well to his toddler bed, but i secretly wish that we would hear footsteps in the night and have the opportunity to also be closet co-sleepers.
ReplyDeletethinking of you guys and your last weekend as co-sleepers. . .
Good luck to you! I've used a combination of Weisbluth & Ferber over the years... I've also heard great things about the method Kristen mentioned above. My older kids are great sleepers but they occasionally still pitter patter down the hallway during the night. It usually happens in short spurts and I allow it because I like it. :)
ReplyDeleteWe never have been cosleepers... I am kinda sad that we never were. BUT, I like sleep to much and I suppose my kids do to! We were willing to give cosleeping a go with Ash and will be willing with Emi. Just have to wait and see.
ReplyDeleteI hope your transition goes as smoothly as it can. Good luck and do cuddle more during the day when ever you can. You will miss it.